The power of small moments
As parents, we might feel pressure to “keep our kids busy” and organize special activities. We want to surprise, delight, and stimulate them, giving them every opportunity. So we do a lot, and often, we do too much.
And yet, it’s often these “ordinary” moments that lead to the most meaningful exchanges and lasting memories.
The key is to learn to welcome these opportunities when they present themselves. An impromptu walk, a shared laugh at the dinner table, or a spontaneous dance. These simple moments help children grow while bringing us closer together. The trust and closeness built during these moments makes tough times easier to navigate.
Everyday rituals also help create special bonds: the journey to school can become a time for sharing secrets, tidying up can be an opportunity for collaboration, bath time can be a space for play and laughter, and reading a story can provide a comforting break.
At the heart of family life
By being available at these moments, we show our children how important they are to us. These authentic exchanges, without artifice or distraction, become the heart of our family life—and they’re often free!
6 parenting practices
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and strategies to adopt
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1. CREATE A FAMILY RHYTHM THAT FEELS RIGHT
Slowing down, simplifying the family schedule, and setting realistic expectations isn’t a failure—it’s a sign of wisdom… and courage!
By refusing to join the high-speed parenting race to “succeed,” we open up space for more genuine, spontaneous moments.
When we feel less rushed and pressured, we can better listen to our children and ourselves, focusing on what really matters for our family’s well-being. And that can also help us purchase less, which means fewer expenses and less stress.
Some families find balance in more structured evenings, others in a more relaxed approach. Some need outdoor activities, while others prefer cozy time at home.
The key is finding a rhythm that we can all enjoy, while respecting the needs and personalities of each family member to create a dynamic that works for everyone.
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2. BE SENSITIVE
Being sensitive to what our children are experiencing means listening to their signals. It’s about recognizing their tiredness, sadness, or joy, and responding in a timely way.
It’s also about being available when our children face challenges and need a listening ear or advice.
By responding to their needs while encouraging their autonomy, we can build a trust-based relationship that reinforces their emotional security.
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3. STAY ENGAGED
Engagement means ensuring your children’s safety, maintaining appropriate discipline, and adapting as they grow. This supervision helps children thrive in a structured and supportive environment.
Engagement also means staying involved in our children’s lives at daycare or school to support their success.
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4. SEIZE MOMENTS TO CONNECT
Being available and physically present during the little everyday moments strengthens our bond with our children. When possible, be there for hugs, conversations, and spontaneous games.
Getting close and getting down to their level helps when you want their attention or want to give them instructions.
This closeness helps children feel safe and secure—which is key for their development.
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5. BUILD A TWO-WAY RELATIONSHIP
It’s important to recognize our children as unique individuals with their own personalities, strengths, and challenges. This helps build a two-way relationship in which each person respects and listens to the other.
This approach boosts children’s self-esteem, allowing them to confidently be themselves while supporting their growing independence.
Of course, as parents, we still have to be the adults in the relationship—the ones guiding, supporting, and setting boundaries!
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6. INVOLVE YOUR CHILDREN IN FAMILY LIFE
Involving children in household activities—cleaning, cooking, doing dishes, etc.—at an early age is important. Children generally enjoy taking part in their parents’ lives: it makes them feel useful. In the process, they develop skills and gain independence and confidence. They also become more aware of the work done by the adults around them.
There are other benefits to involving little ones in household activities. They may take more initiative in doing certain tasks. In addition to giving them the opportunity to play an active role in the family, getting children to participate makes for good times together… even if it can sometimes complicate things a bit!
Embrace free time
Unstructured, screen-free leisure time is very important. It encourages children to develop their creativity and autonomy.
Without the pressure of “having to do” something, children learn to explore their inner world, manage their emotions better, and discover their own interests.
These moments also help them develop skills like problem-solving. When children have to figure out how to keep themselves occupied, they build resourcefulness and confidence. And if they’re allowed to play freely, they also learn to manage risk.
Free time is also a great antidote to stress and activity overload, inviting us to slow down, take a breather, or get some exercise… It’s good for both children and parents!
As parents, our role is also to protect these spaces of freedom in our family nest while remaining available if our children need us.